My overarching philosophy toward
managing student behavior is developing and maintaining student relationships.
Any child who knows that you are concerned about them, care for them, and make
time to connect with them throughout the day will be more responsive and
receptive.
However, that does not mean there
will not be a need for behavior modification strategies. My first response is
always looking for a positive behavior to spotlight and bring attention to for
modeling such as “I like how I see some students putting away their reading and
getting out their science books quietly and quickly. We will have more time for
PE later if we keep up the good work!” I take care to not make it sound as
though I am a personal cheerleader for another student but definitely a
supporter of the positive behavior they are displaying and the benefits to the
group if they all participate. I try to look for ways to keep everyone moving
along between activities, busy hands are happy hands (that don’t get into
mischief along the way).
If a student were talking with a peer when
another student is speaking, my first response would be a non-verbal cue such
as a “shush” sign. Perhaps I would walk over near to where the student is
seated and stand closer for awhile. I have found that often times; just my
nearby presence will help them maintain their self-control, whether it keeps
them from being swept away with foolishness or if I just provide them with a
sense of calm. Sometimes students just need reassurance that you are being attentive.
Another tactic that works well is to
redirect student focus with a quiet reminder of the task at hand such as “I
need to see you writing your answers down right now.” If several students are
distracted and murmuring, then speaking to the group may be necessary such as “I
need to see everyone writing their
reflections in their journals right now.”
If a student is blatantly refusing to respond
to a direct request, I will direct them to go out in the hall (or somewhere
else away from the whole group) where I can address the student privately.
There I would give them an opportunity to explain why they chose to respond in
this inappropriate manner. Sometimes, it is simply a communication breakdown.
During these times, I feel it is very important to actively listen, and restate
or rephrase what they have said. Finally, evaluate if there is any personal
responsibility I need to take ownership for, and then hold them accountable for
their personal choices. It is critical not to allow the student to shift blame
for their behavior and choices onto someone else.
On
occasion I have found that the student feels that they have been treated
unfairly. Children have a strong sense of justice and if they feel at all
violated, you can quickly become the target for their anger. The simple act of
active listening and a kind, understanding word can go a long way at diffusing a
temper. This is when having trusted relationships with students is invaluable.